People "in the know" are always telling me that kids with Asperger's Syndrome will be able to grow up and have normal lives. I have often wondered if that includes falling in love, getting married, and having children (grandchildren for me....hehehe).
Of course, many historical people with Asperger's have been married: Carl Sagan, Warren Buffett, Bill Gates, Sir Arthur Conan Doyle, etc.
Yes....I have actually researched this.....
It will take a very special woman to understand, fall in love with and marry my Aspie sons. And the girls' families will have to be VERY UNDERSTANDING, as well. I can see the oldest one getting married.....and the woman he would marry would be very lucky. He takes things sooooo literally and feels soooo deeply that there is NO WAY he would ever be unfaithful!!! She could rest assured that his love would be unending and very committed. He is just a little bit quirky still. My middle Aspie son is still in the throws, the trials of this "difference." I hope to see the same development in him over the next 4 years as I have seen in our oldest son. But whoever marries my boys will need to be very
special.......
understanding.......
committed.......
Not just so that I approve, that's not what this is about. Rather, they will be all of those things so that my boys recognize that they are THERE AND LOVING THEM.
I recently told my oldest Aspie son not to expect the meals that I make for our family from his wife.
(I have schedules for every meal, I make full breakfasts in the morning and we actually sit around the table as a family to eat....constant consistency...)
He asked me why and I told him that not all families are as we are. He said, "Mine will be."
Lord have mercy on him.....and on her...
I have added 2 links about Famous People With ASD to the Links List.
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