Honesty

One thing I know about my sons...they are painfully honest. It is sometimes humorous how "honest" my middle son can be....like when he says, "It's a hot day" or "I need a drink" with so much drama that one would think he was 40 years old.

Most Aspie kids are misunderstood when it comes to honesty. They are "painfully" honest.....but it is our pain, not theirs. We are the one's not being honest. Consider how many times parent tell their children not to lie....and that even "little white lies" are wrong. Now consider how many time in 1 day we all lie...."You look wonderful in that gold lame' halter top...." or "No, I don't think you are being silly" or "That dress was made for you." Aspie kids would have said, "No one looks good in lame'. You look like a superhero" or "Yes, you are being silly when you keep going back to the same dysfunctional relationship" or "That dress does not look good on you, unless you're 14 years old." They were taught not to lie, therefore they are telling the truth...and we, as parents, want to melt into the floor! Our society has taught us to be dishonest when it will get us what we want. But Aspie kids don't see life like that. They can't differentiate between the time to tell the truth and the time to tell a social lie. THERE IS NO WHITE OR BLACK....ONLY GRAY ON THIS SUBJECT. They tell the truth (or they try to lie with great difficulty) even when it is not socially accepted.

 But who is to say that THEY are not the ones doing it "right" and we are not the one's who need to change our ways?