26 October 2014


You know....as parents...there are some things we just take for granted. Things like
      kids tying their own shoes...
      kids telling you what they need...
      kids being able to cut their own food...

Our middle Aspie child has some very definite deficiencies. He couldn't tie his own shoes until he was in fifth grade.....he still has trouble telling us what he needs....and his table manners have always left something to be desired.

But you know...it is the little things that make all the difference.

Last night, I witnessed him CUTTING A WAFFLE. I don't mean "creatively tearing it apart" or even "chompoing on it"....but systematically cutting the parts of the waffle into managable bite-sized pieces.

Laugh if you must.....but....

...it brought tears of joy to my eyes!

It truly IS the little things that make all the difference.

25 September 2014


There was a recent study released that spoke about the multiple synapses in the brains of children on the Autism Spectrum. It seems that most children, as they grow, will shluff off unused synapses that form as the brain forms. There is a particular protein that ensures that these unused synapses fall away. But, the brains of children on the spectrum do not contain the protein that enables these unused synapses to disintegrate.

As soon as I heard this, I thought back to a 2007 study from UCLA that connected children on the Autism spectrum to chromosome 17. The study stated that it caused a problem with protein absorption in the cell...but that they could not determine if the chromosome abnormality was allowing too much protein into the cells or not enough.

The two studies above, and their apparent link, seem very interesting to me.

They remind me of a time when our middle Aspie son would, while trying to complete homework, hit his head over and over saying, "I know that the right answer is in there...it just takes the wrong path." Well son, you were right. I guess it just took the wrong synapses.

My husband and I have always said that if anyone really, fully understands Autism or Asperger's...it would be someone already on the spectrum themselves. We were right.

14 September 2014

Starting Again

Our lives are filled with moments we take for granted. We drift from responsibility to responsibility...and before we know it....we have forgotten why we chose to take on that responsibility. What starts out as gift turns into task. The context of our lives switches and we don't even notice it. That is what has happened over the last 2 years with this blog....

When I strated writing, it was only for me. (Sorry...but it was.) It was a way for me to process what I needed to process about my Aspie sons and our Aspie family and our Aspie lives. It was theraputic, it was centering, it was gift. A few people asked me to start posting these entries so that others can share in them...help other Aspie families. This was fine with me...because...the truth is that we, as Aspie parents, or as parents in general...are making it up as we go along. I appreciate any insight others have for me...and maybe I can help give insight to others. But after about 3 years of gift, it turned into responsibility. People started to want to edit my posts...my life. They requested that certain subjects to be covered. I felt a responsibility to write as often as possible...to not miss an opportunity to help others....and I lost my original purpose for this blog.

Over the last year of posts being few and far between, I have been over-run with guilt that I was not posting. I felt like I was letting people down. But what I found is that the more responsibility I felt towards the blog, the less I posted.

So....now...I am not making any statements or promises about how often I will post. I am not going to put FB link to the posts until I feel confortable with that. I will post when I need to....when I can....and if people find the posts helpful...that is gift, also.

So here we go....STARTING AGAIN...